1.An Unsexy Bedroom
Ever wonder why hotel lovemaking comes so easily? It's because the rooms are organized and have lovely linens and soft pillows—and nothing that reminds you of anything. Turn your bedroom into an inviting retreat by, yes, cleaning, but also splurging on comfy bedding, cozy pillows and other things that make you want to crawl into bed with your partner. "Tattered, crummy sheets and itchy, old bedding don't feel nice," says Korey. "Add sensation that evokes you physically as well as mentally.
2.Under Bed Storage
According to Feng Shui tenets, the area beneath your bed should stay clear. "Your subconscious knows what's down there, and it brings up the feelings those objects spark for you," says Manzi. "Lying above objects is like lying on a bed of emotional nails." If space mandates you store things under the bed, select only items related to sleep and comfort, like sweaters, bedding and night clothes. "Hold the item and ask yourself what it reminds you of. Anything that doesn't give you loving feelings can't go under the bed if you want it to remain an amorous place," says Manzi.
3.Harsh Lighting
Unless you always want to do it in the dark, find ways to create a soft glow in the boudoir. "One-hundred-watt lighting can douse a romantic mood," says Eisner. "Dimmers and three-way bulbs shift you from 'not now' to 'right now!'" So too can a non-flammable scarf over a lampshade, a burning fireplace and candles by the bathtub or on the kitchen counter. "Keep matches within easy reach," urges Eisner. "And extra logs by the hearth.
4.The Wrong Size Bed
A single/twin mattress isn't shareable, but a king-size one can put you and your love on opposite sides of the world. "The best bed size is one in which you both fit comfortably," says Manzi. But if you opt for a king-size, "sleep at least one night a week starting in a tight cuddle," recommends Manzi. Pay attention to decorative accents too. "Abed overladen with pillows becomes an obstacle to intimacy," says Eisner. "Streamline your bed by getting rid of the pillows that don't speak to you.
5. A Grimmy Bathroom
Lots can go wrong in the loo. Hair in the drain or soap scum can make shower sex unappealing. Plus, "I had a client who refused to sleep with her husband because he'd leave his filthy gym clothes on the bathroom counter," says Korey. She suggested he place his dirty laundry in a decorative urn near the bathroom—which saved that couple's love life. Also, consider bathroom odor. If the floral-scented spray doesn't do the trick.
6.Gifts from Exes
. "A reminder of your ex is like tying a string around your finger so you don't forget something," says Manzi. The solution here: Send those emotionally charged mementos to a relative or put them in storage if you can't stand to part with them completely. Out with the old; in with the new. He's an ex for a reason!
7. Too many Technology Tools
"Banish all tech from your love nest. Bedrooms aren't meant to be home offices," says lifestyle and brand culture consultant.
8.Family Photos in your Bedroom
You love your parents, siblings, and kids, but the thought of them "watching" you in action can zap your sex drive. "Keep only photos of you and your partner in the bedroom, Feng Shui expert who harmonizes spaces through color, imagery and spatial arrangement. Try pictures of "you two on a favorite vacation. Or to spur feelings of warmth, comfort, and sensuality, try using nature scenes, flowers or artwork with smooth curves and warm colors." Also, remember that the first thing you see upon entering a room sets the mood, so place these images somewhere attention-grabbing.
9. Clutter
If a space messy, it may make a potential partner wonder what else is a mess in the resident's life." If you're already a couple and the bedroom is filled with unpaid bills, filthy clothes and half-completed projects, "your mind is screaming, 'Do laundry/pay bills/finish projects,'" says Korey. And if you can't relax, you can't get busy. So go through your stuff and decide what to toss and donate and where to store what you want to keep with this advice on.
10.Sex Up Your House
Home may be where the heart is, but it also can be a hookup hindrance. Turns out that what's under your bed, in your bathroom or filling your closet can actually, affect your libido.
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